Being a parent is all about the mom, right? Wrong! As a stay-at-home-mom, I have been given the blessing of staying home for the past five years to raise our four children, all while my husband became the only bread winner. Now don’t get me wrong, I am no where near complaining; I am however, putting the shoe on the other foot. If my husband were a stay-at-home-dad, I am the first to admit that I would not be able to be the sole income in our family. I have had experiences of guilt because there were times where I saw myself as “lazy” since I got to stay home all day, while my husband was outside in the Texas heat working for 8-12 hours per day. Yes, I was able to stay at home with our babies and focus on my education, but it’s what my husband does that makes me give him all of the credit in the world.
No matter how “easy” or “hard” daily life seemed, there is really no understanding how hard your husband works, until you sit down to reflect on all his sacrifices. I got to wake up during the school year at 6:30AM to get our kids up and ready to get on the bus, then make coffee and have “me time” (which really wasn’t any time at all) until our youngest woke up for breakfast. That’s when the day got hectic in trying to keep him out of trouble until the older ones got home, then homework, dinner, showers, and bed. My daily life has been on repeat since I became a stay-at-home-mom, but my husbands work-life is a different story. He wakes up at 4:30 every morning to get ready for work (while I pack his lunch for the day), leaves by 4:45AM, and drives an hour and a half to work. For anyone that knows about the plants here in Texas, you know how busy the work load can get, and how hot the Texas heat is year round. On most days, my husband is out in the heat pulling wires, running conduit, terminating instruments, lights, identifying wires, and checking the voltage of the wires. On average he works a 10-hour day, then he has to drive home in traffic which will take him at least two hours, if not more. He is home just in time for dinner, a shower, and then bed. He doesn’t get a lot of time to spend with our children everyday, and has to wait until Sunday to really spend time with them, which is also his “rest” day. He gets home and I can see how tired he is from his long days at work. I don’t try to make his day any longer, even when I’ve had a long day myself.
You hear and will see a lot of blogs that say that a stay-at-home parents job is far harder than getting up to go to work. Yes, our jobs never end, but that’s part of being a parent. To me, my husband going to work and being stuck in traffic, and then coming home to be a parent is much harder. Our children are in the age groups where they fight with each other, have random attitude changes, and are very outspoken. I have to deal with it throughout the entire day, and yes, I want to pull out all my hair and cry in the corner in my closet, but it’s my husband that really has to deal with it. He has to deal with being at work all day, sometimes coming home after having a bad day, to be the mediator in our home. He has to deal with his work load, and then deal with the things that I deal with all day. He takes on the double load! He keeps me sane! He never complains about having to get up when he is tired, he never makes me feel bad for staying at home, he never lets me feel like he can’t take care of us. He always finds a way to give our family what we need. He is by far one of the hardest workers that I have ever met. I encourage you to reflect on your significant others sacrifices, and give them the credit. They may not want the credit because its their “job” but it’s our job to show them how much we appreciate all of their hard work.
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